Leading Discussions

You should hold meetings in a home for at least a few months before considering a move to a different location. Consistent weekly meetings help the group bond and grow together. Depending on the needs of each group, some might meet for a few months but only three weeks each month, followed by a month off. Other groups may gather every week for three to four months and then take a break for a month. Some groups arrange meals once every three months, while others may share lunch or dinner at every meeting.

Among the leadership group, a member with more experience in leading discussions should guide the group. It is also essential for the group to establish a set of Ground Rules to maintain order during discussions. These rules may differ from group to group or from one home to another. However, during the first meeting, the leaders should discuss and reach an agreement on the following five Ground Rules:

1) All participants must promise to keep confidential information within the group. This means that sensitive and personal information should not be shared with anyone who was not present, including loved ones. If necessary, one may only share the general topic of discussion but not specify who said what. Violating this rule undermines confidentiality and trust, ultimately harming the group in the long run!

2) Avoid soliciting! Participants are not allowed to promote products or services or suggest membership in a business.

3) Unlike many social groups, a fellowship group is not designed for meditation, advice-giving, or teacher-led discussions. While some participants may possess a wealth of knowledge, they should share only their personal experiences rather than trying to correct or teach others. The group thrives when participants feel free to listen without the obligation to take advice.

4) Participants should be mindful of time so that everyone has the opportunity to share.

5) Group leaders should seek the group’s consent in advance if they need to direct, redirect, or interrupt a conversation or discussion. For example, the discussion leader should intervene if the group strays off-topic or becomes stuck on a non-constructive subject. Your group will adhere to these rules only if you communicate them clearly in advance. After discussing these ground rules, ask everyone to raise their hands as a sign of agreement and support. This will help prevent misunderstandings later, and you’ll be thankful you did!

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